Dearly cherished, we have been gathered here today to make it through this thing labeled as⦠a period finale! Yes, it’s genuine, today’s episode marks the end of absolutely the smash hit that has been S2 of
Wait, Is This A Night Out Together?
Also to commemorate that ending, which far better to seriously and talk about the joys and achievements of an extended distance crush, than star and queer person Elise Bauman? You might recognize Elise from Lifetime’s wonderful queer xmas rom-com that come around a year ago,
Underneath The Xmas Tree
,
but around these parts, she’s another title definitely almost as vaunted: Drew’s sweetheart! Yes, you heard that right, this gleaming twosome had been birthed from the great queer heritage: the long-distance crush.
But what is-it regarding long-distance crush definitely so appealing to queers throughout the world? Can it be the general scarcity of like-minded queers close to you? even the power to flirt cross country requires some of the pressure off? The 3 folks get into everything, AND Drew and Elise show some probably as well attractive information regarding their union!
And undoubtedly discover a-game! This week, we make Drew have fun with the video game that simply took more than Twitter and Tiktok for several momentary months: “they truly are a 10 but⦔ It really is a very good time, all over!
PROGRAM NOTES
+ Follow Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!
+
Browse Drew’s interview with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ See
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it nevertheless rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs tend to be⦠undoubtedly very powerful!
+ will most likely Shortz is actually the name with the NYT Crossword publisher!
*the more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: And then we got off of the cellphone, then the two of us hopped on phone two moments later on we’re like, “so that the edge is closed, we’re legitimately prohibited to truly get over the line.”
Christina
: i am talking about, leading among one of my personal favorite vocals memos and or texts I managed to get from Drew, i can not remember which type it was available in, it was love, “I made this course of action and then the boundaries are closed.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it absolutely was an actual time.
[theme track performs]
Drew
: Hi, I’m Drew.
Christina
: And That I’m Christina.
Drew
: And thanks for visiting
Wait, Is This A Romantic Date?
Christina
:
Hold Off, So Is This A Date?
is an Autostraddle podcast brought to you by me personally obtaining giggles, together with question this is certainly on everybody’s lip area, hold off, had been this a night out together?
Drew
: We’re after our next season, and I also believe we resolved it, i do believe.
Christina
: Yeah, I think I’m simply providing large finale energy, like when comedies was once facing a studio audience, and everyone would walk-in and there was one hour of applause since it was like, it’s the finally, which is how I’m feeling. Though to be obvious, no body has actually applauded me yet, hateful. Thanks, many thanks. Now I feel loved and used. Drew, who happen to be you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about this part.
Christina
: Yeah, right?
Drew:
Maybe season three we’ll get the intros. I’m called Drew Gregory, i will be an author for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans lady. Guess what happens, I think when we would another period I want to have a fun one we throw-in right at the end.
Christina
: Ooh, something spicy, you want to jazz it?
Drew
: Yeah, I don’t have anything today though.
Christina
: Okay, keep them hoping more, I think which is fantastic.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: i will be Christina Tucker, i will be in addition a writer at Autostraddle, as well as the net in particular. A podcaster, a gay Ebony lady, and somebody who’s feeling rather flashy here about mid-day.
Drew
: Great, i am actually grateful that you are flashy and that I’m spicy, or at least i am planning the chance that someday i will be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you are like, I am not sure, the first 1 / 2 of the movie Dune, the spice should come. Cool reference, girls, she actually is single. In any event, i actually do have a game title for all of us to relax and play about hollowed day of our finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: Here Is The traditional, and by traditional I mean a game that took over the internet and TikTok for a couple weeks, “They’re a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, great.
Christina
: today Drew, i will establish some floor rules individually, because I know you adore a follow up concern.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: When I state they’re a 10, they can be a 10 to you personally by any means that counts to you, that would be literally, that could be mentally, this is just a person you’re feeling is actually a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, okay, thanks a lot.
Christina
: I do n’t have any circumstances for what else you contained in this individual being doing in your online dating existence, you are just going to have to go with your gut and decide.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: fine?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: we will place in which make that obvious, right here we go. They’re a 10, even so they clap when the jet places.
Drew
: i usually decided people were as well remarkable with this specific, in which it’s like they are a 10 hence thing makes them visit a-two, seriously.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: and so i’m planning however give a pretty ample eight.
Christina
: Yeah, I think which is fair. In my opinion eight is the correct level of cringe reduction for the small activity. Fine, this will be a great beginning. Okay, they’re a nine however they never ever text you first.
Drew
: and that I are unable to ask follow up concerns?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: So I cannot ask, well would they text me when I text? I would personally say a five.
Christina
: Yeah, not texting very first actually ever, that is rough.
Drew
: Actually ever is strange.
Christina
: that is rough material. Fine, they have been a five nonetheless they drive one to every errand that you’ve ever endured to run.
Drew
: that is great, but I could usually⦠If there have been five, we’ll give him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But I know you adore a solo jaunt anyhow, you adore an errand run.
Drew
:I mean today my sweetheart Elise did drive us to an errand, and I had been very pleased, however, if that was the single thing she performed we’dn’t maintain an union, that was merely an additional little nice extra.
Christina
: I think which is reasonable.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: fine, these are generally a seven however they just pretend to learn your projects.
Drew
: begin to see the part of that that bothers me personally may be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, I understood it will be.
Drew
: it isn’t the maybe not reading it. If they failed to read might work its like, I am not that, I would be slightly, it is like never ever? But it’s good, i really could conquer it. Nonetheless lay for me about this is exactly what’s strange in my opinion, in order thatwill go-down to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, correct, appropriate. They’ve been a three but they gain access to the criterion closet.
Drew
: And do I get one get?
Christina
: and also you have accessibility, you benefit from that accessibility, yes.
Drew
: I could have a great fling thereupon six.
Christina
: i do believe you might. It absolutely was a three, but yeah, you are knocking it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that is what I’m claiming, I’m knocking it to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. Everyone loves that. They may be an eight but their friends tend to be straight.
Drew
: Okay, there was clearly some discussion about this, because In my opinion there was clearly a you’ll need assist. I think I possibly was actually about contrary side on most on the Autostraddle team exactly who said that it is good to simply have directly pals. I would like to point out that truly good, it is simply not living I lead. All direct buddies, that is going to choose a two.
Christina
: Yeah, I’m going to need agree with you thereon one, I would personally simply believe it is just a little unpleasant, confusing.
Drew
: All directly pals?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: If they’re not used to queerness and therefore are attempting to fulfill even more queer people, which is diverse from if they are a well established period queer who’s similar, do you know what? I prefer becoming the one lesbian within my pal selection of directly folks.
Christina
: Yeah, I would have the same manner whether it ended up being a dark person who had been like, “I don’t have any Black pals,” i might wind up as, “What’s going on there?” Internally.
Drew
: we aren’t in a system sitcom, we can not have a token individual.
Christina
: you should not end up being the token, you should not accomplish that to yourself. Fine, we’ve got three a lot more. These include a seven however they spend-all their unique free-time at the gym, continuously lifting weights top to bottom. I’m not sure what people perform at the gym.
Drew
: their leisure time. I assume it depends on which matters as sparetime. We’ll say a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: we’ll bump them all the way down two.
Christina
: Bump them down.
Drew
: but that is great. I suppose it depends mainly in my situation, that we’m maybe not inquiring a take concern, I’m keeping five, nevertheless depends in my opinion what counts as leisure time.
Christina
: Positive.
Drew
: are we able to view films together, or go out to consume, is that sparetime? Is certainly not work time free time, or perhaps is it just like whenever we lack other activities?
Christina
: I hear you, we notice you.
Drew
: But we’ll stay with five.
Christina
: okay. They truly are six, but their mom is hotter than they’re.
Drew
: Oh, I am not sure to move up or down.
Christina
: i understand, right?
Drew
: I really don’t consider i possibly could previously date somebody for their⦠It’s like if I’m perhaps not keen on some body originally, i am perhaps not likely to be online dating them.
Christina
: Right.
Drew
: I am not likely to be want, really, they can end up as their hot mommy. I think I’d point out that they’re still a six, i am simply gonna perhaps not refer to them as and I’m going to contact their mother.
Christina
: Yeah, i’m adore it’s as if you stay the exact same, but possibly we hang out with you just a little longer than I would in an effort-
Drew
: That’s an excellent point.
Christina
: for some mommy time. I really don’t consider you alter.
Drew
: I did some thing actually terrible that I nonetheless feel poorly in regards to, that will be that someone questioned me completely, and this was when I was a student in college, and I also had not been interested, I really ended up being obvious about this, I happened to be obvious I happened to ben’t interested. However she desired to be pals, and that I could inform that she mentioned she wished to be pals but it was actually originating from spot-
Christina
: She had been hoping.
Drew
: Yeah. Nevertheless the thing usually every one of the woman friends were truly hot and cool, therefore I did always been her pal in order to hang out with her friends. I did not rest about my motives generally speaking, but it nonetheless wasn’t the nicest thing Used to do as a 20 year-old.
Christina
: I mean sadly it reminds myself of these episode of
Intercourse and also the City
where Carrie’s relationship, i really believe it really is Justin Theroux, and then he sucks, but their family rocks, and she’s like, I can do that for some. I am like, yeah, completely, exactly who cannot.
Drew
: Carrie wasn’t attempting to hook-up with his family, the difference, but you understand what? Its good, all of us are great.
Christina
: A hookup will appear like everything, i am usually proclaiming that.
Drew
: which is a very great point.
Christina
: Your last any, is actually a three but provides a coastline household.
Drew
: I’m going to state an annoying phrase, but I went along to NYU.
Christina
: terrible to express.
Drew
: something which sucks about me personally, which this might be browsing appear to be a simple brag, because it’s really most likely a character attribute, however it sucks as individuals going through the world. We went to a college that is filled up with wealthy people who have a variety of awesome beach homes, and all of these other stuff, and I also just became friends with others who have been indeed there on scholarships. Not merely, but mainly, we seriously, I didn’t make friends with people who’d beach houses.
Christina
: You didn’t use.
Drew
: Yeah, and so I believe if they’re a three nonetheless have actually a beach house, they’re most likely a-two. The fact⦠I am not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you only are unable to generate that step to work well with the unwell beach residence second.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what i am really wishing is that my buddies who are pretty down to earth, great men and women, more and more of those are just gonna continue to get that brand-new cash and get beach homes, immediately after which I’ll be able to go out using my great pals and start to become at a beach house. This is the fantasy in which i possibly could have the beach household.
Christina
: that is the dream at the end of your day, its brand new money and a coastline residence, that’s all we’re in search of. You heard it right here 1st folks.
Drew
: i really like brand new cash.
Christina
: Love new money.
Drew
: Love new money. Yeah, which was a delight. I would actually, I’d really already been planning to play that online game since it was anything on TikTok, very thanks a lot to make my fantasies become a reality.
Christina
: I thought it might be an enjoyable anyone to do, therefore ended up being really fun to create them.
Drew
: Well, should we move on to our main phase with the week, which will be falling for those who inhabit other cities. Which will be distinct from cross country relationships, because long-distance interactions can start really into a relationship, they are able to continue on into an union, this is the desire that queer men and women have to look at their place they live and get, no, I am not browsing flirt with your people, i will embark on instagram.com and find an individual who life really a distance. And we also have a, I know we always say a rather unique visitor, however for me personally this is exactly an extremely special visitor. Do you wish to present yourself?
Elise
: I would personally love to present me. Have always been we the special visitor?
Drew
: you happen to be, yes.
Christina
: kid, naturally.
Elise
: Great, wow, remarkable. My name is Elise Bauman, i am an actor, i am a queer individual, and that I’m here now because I’m asleep with among the hosts.
Christina
: imagine what type?
Elise
: Yeah, all of those other podcast is just the market attempting decipher which host I’m resting with. I like that, it really is like a murder puzzle but-
Christina
: There’s no solution to know.
Elise
: there’s really no option to know. Yeah, performs this create me a nepotism baby? Is that how market really works.
Christina
: Yes, which is the business really works, hottie.
Elise
: kind, wonderful.
Christina
: this will be it.
Elise
: Wow, perhaps I could get a career using this.
Christina
: Fingers crossed for you.
Elise
: Nepo baby to career, wow, great. I’ve constantly wanted to end up being a nepo baby.
Christina
: I’m very happy.
Drew
: Yeah, I found myself merely probably point out that for folks who do not know, really I am just destroying the murder secret of it all, but Elise and I also come into a connection, and performed begin dating during the pandemic, and Elise lives in Toronto, and I also inhabit la, that are actually different towns and cities, as they are in reality in various nations.
Elise
: These are typically without a doubt, these are generally without a doubt.
Christina
: And Drew, not saying which you moved against a abdomen, but i actually do feel like you will be generally an individual who says, exactly why bother with a long distance minute? You can find folks the following i will date, why do this to your self? You understand it will be hard, you know it will likely be difficult, how come this? And yet right here you will be.
Drew
: See, that’s fascinating, because i’m like i usually liked for a bit of both, i simply believe i did not grab the long distance types perhaps as severely.
Christina
: perhaps that’s it, yeah.
Drew
: But i enjoyed an extended range flirt.
Christina
: Real.
Drew
: i really think this simply stored going. Whenever we began-
Elise
: so that the answer, Drew, was not that I was only attractive therefore was actually personal in my experience, and this had been really certain if you ask me that I found myself merely extremely attractive you simply broke all your valuable rules while stated, “i must have this 1.”
Drew
: What i’m saying is really kind of the solution in a longer sense. In the same way it just kept going on. Following our friends associated with the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, which I familiar with accept, as some of you may know, I would personally be like, I’d be wanting to date men and women during the pandemic in L. A. in addition to surrounding aspects of l . a .. Then they’d generate fun of me personally because I would personally occasionally just be similar, “I mean, i possibly could just just be sure to date Elise Bauman.” I found myself constantly, “What i’m saying is, {this person|this i
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